Every wedding is unique, every wedding is special in its own way, but there are some that have an alchemy of all the right elements and an energy to really raise the bar on the rest. Sometimes it is almost impossible to pinpoint why or what makes one wedding stand out from another. The one that I want to talk about today may not be the one that is at the top of the list tomorrow. For now though, I have to share Jerusha and Andy’s wedding story.
Firstly, let’s put it out there… these guys are my closest friends and we are part of a tribe that is very close-knit with an emphasis on digging at the ‘marrow of life’. Already they have an unfair advantage. Working against them however, was the knowledge that because we knew each other so well, there was always a chance we might over-step the mark.
So let it be known that I couldn’t be prouder of the ceremony we created together. It truly was a team-effort and let me show you why it was a stand-out.
Constructing the Wedding Ceremony
Knowing the run or structure of a ceremony, we wanted to break it down. Knowing its flexibility, we wanted to challenge people’s perceptions, but keep them totally engaged and ‘keep it real’ (i.e. authentic and personal). We wanted it to feel intimate; always a challenge in an outdoor-setting and the vast expanse of the Australian landscape as a backdrop. Frankly, we wanted it all.
Wedding in Australia
The Wedding Opening
The setting was Mali Brae Farm. Very rural. Very Australian. In tipping our hat to the groom’s English heritage and the bride’s (and celebrant’s) love of theatre, before anything began, our mate, and fellow thespian Ben, took the roll of Town Crier. Through some carefully written words and perfect Shakespeare-like execution, he succeeded in injecting energy and hilarity into the start of the proceedings. (Already we had everyone on their toes)
The Town Crier
The opening of the ceremony was emotional and symbolic with the groom and his family from England walking from one dwelling on the farm, joining in embrace with his Australian bride and her family at the top gate of the paddock. (A marvellous moment)
Families of the bride and groom embrace at the top of the aisle
The families then proceeded down the aisle then followed the bride and groom together – equal.
From there, the story-telling began. There we laughs and tears and a bunch of in-jokes. It will be noted that some guests chose to just cry all the way through, laughing included.
Family and friends
In the gentle heart of the ceremony we acknowledged the recent death of the groom’s mum. This moment of remembrance was naturally moving but also breath-takingly beautiful. I won’t give too much away as it was incredibly personal but ask me and I’ll tell you some time.
A rose representing the groom’s mum is pinned by the bride.
To shake everyone up we had a ceremony pledge. That got the crowd thinking. It’s so much fun to do and very cheeky.
The Time Capsule
From other blog posts you will know I’m all about ‘colour and movement’ (i.e. Ritual) Symbolism and ritual can add that other memorable layer to a ceremony and really get everyone thinking.
This moment came from a number of ideas and bringing them altogether. The wine box ceremony is wonderful to incorporate into any wedding, particularly if the bride and groom have an affinity with the fermented grape. (I’ll talk further about this one in another post.) The time capsule is equally a brilliant idea for a future reflection and reminiscence of an extraordinary day in the lives of a couple. Also, a good opportunity to cellar a bottle of plonk to imbibe while delving into the capsule in the future.
The bride and groom, having friends from all over the world, liking a bit of vino and wanting to keep the bride’s dad Brian off the streets for a few weeks, commissioned Brian to create a time-capsule/wine box. He did a brilliant job.
Time capsule and wine box ceremony together
The whole ceremony was a rippa and it set the tone for the rest of the day, as a good ceremony should.
Much love and thanks to Jerusha and Andy for allowing me to share their story.
Big hugs to Alex Vaughan Photographer for the beautiful images.
Best wedding ever!
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